75 - Russ Solomon and the Secret to Inner Harmony for Parents 12/29/24

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 Welcome to the every brain is different podcast. We are here with Russ Solomon and Russ helps successful heart centered, spiritually minded parents of neurodiverse kids, eliminate stress and overwhelm so they can show up in a healthy place for their family and lead with love rather than frustration and overwhelm.

Thank you so much for coming on the podcast. We really appreciate you being here. Oh, thank you for having me. It's awesome to be here. Awesome. Can you tell us a little bit more about how you're involved in the neurodivergent community? Sure. Absolutely. So, um, the, well, the first thing is, um, is personal. I, my, my son is 15 years old, uh, is neurodivergent.

Um, and I think he's got some probably undiagnosed things as well, but they seem pretty clear to us as far as, um, things like dyslexia and so forth. Um, so, so that's the first thing. The second thing is, um, uh, so, so nicely, thank you for that great introduction. Um, I'm also a parent wellness mentor. And as you said, I help, you know, Not to repeat everything, but I'm, I'm, uh, looking to help, uh, parents who are, like you said, successful, who are heart centered, spiritually minded.

Um, and the, the, the point of, uh, the help is to just help them to, to show up with more, more grace, more peace within themselves, um, so that their lives can flow easier. Just like have, you know, bring some joy into what is often quite unique and challenging parenting. Yeah, I know that I speak with a lot of neurodivergent parents.

I was on a call yesterday where we were just doing a, you know, a opening call for parent coaching and she was just so I don't want to say like, just overwhelmed and just, I always want to say downtrodden. Is that a word that people use? Because that's what she seemed like. Um, she was just very like, I don't know where to go from here.

And she was just very depleted. And so I love what you do with parents to help them kind of overcome the overwhelm. And Just get joy back in their life, because I know when you're dealing with all the things that go along with having a neurodivergent kid, like if they need therapies, if they have like certain maladaptive behaviors that are really hard, you know, like throwing things or.

Aggressive behavior. If they have doctor's appointments, there's just so much to manage and so much and paying for it. Like, do you have Medicaid? Do you have private insurance? And it's just all like so overwhelming and it can really. affect people. So I really appreciate your work. Absolutely. Well, thank you.

Yeah, there's so much to it. And that's, um, part of what I, the reason that I ever wanted to do this is that I know that there's a lot of help and support generally for children. And I haven't seen a lot for parents. And there is, there are people out there helping and there definitely is, but I haven't seen a lot of it.

Um, so that kind of, this is what inspired me to go this way. What, um, are some strategies That you use with parents to help them, um, kind of get that joy back in their life. Yes, absolutely. So, um, there's, there's two strategies that I like to share, but even before I get to that, I'd like to maybe just kind of explain a little bit and kind of give some context for those strategies so that when I do tell you them, it'll make a lot more sense.

It makes sense. Yeah. Cool. A little bit of framing could help here. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. All right. Bye. So, um, the first thing, uh, that I'd like to tell people about here is to really understand the root cause of stress and overwhelm. Because in what I found in working with a bunch of people is that it's the, the reason they're stressed out is, is not often what they think it is.

I think it's something different. And so, the, the root cause, I believe, of stress, of worry, of overwhelm, doesn't actually come from the challenges that we face every day as parents. I don't, uh, it doesn't come from the things that We have no control over, and as funny as it is to say it or maybe to hear this, I don't think that our stress and overwhelm comes even from our child's difficult behavior or handling the child's difficult behavior.

The real reason that you may be stressed out and overwhelmed is because You haven't learned how to be more in tune with yourself to eliminate the eliminate chronic stress. And I'll, when I say in tune with yourself, what I mean is that, um, feeling in tune is about, um, your inner energies being aligned so that you feel focused, centered, in control, calm, and again, from a place of Of love, um, rather than frustration when, and so when you're in that kind of a space, you can respond and react differently to those challenges than you would, if you were all stressed out and, you know, all, all frustrated.

So it's about having your inner energies aligned. It's one of the things, um, as a, also as a music therapist that I, I've spent my 20 years. Um, of like, What I've discovered kind of through all of that is helping people to be in tune with themselves. And so that's what I mean by that. Their, their energy is clear focus and so on.

So when you are able to get in tune with yourself, then, um, that kind of. Helps with what, what I call like in an inner harmony problem. Um, so we don't really have a stress and struggle problem. We have a problem with our inner harmony. And until we get in alignment with ourselves, then it doesn't really matter like what other strategies we, we try to do because they're not that they're superficial, they're, they're important.

They're, there are helpful things out there, but. Um, it's so much easier when we're in tune with ourself. So I hope that makes sense. Um, I'm it, it basically meaning that when you're in tune, you don't get as easily derailed as you might buy it by other, you know, when you're, when you're stressed out a lot.

So with that in mind, that's kind of a long way to get there. Um, with that in mind, there's two parts of, of the strategy that I, that I Have seen work really well one is to first make a decision on a very deep level that you want peace More than you want struggle. I know that sounds crazy. All right, but you have to make this decision first because Even if you don't make that decision, then there's not much you can do after that will, will actually help, right?

You, you can't kind of halfway go into halfway go into it. So it's, it's really about, yeah. Okay. I want the piece now, even if you don't know what that path might look like, it's important to make that decision. I understand. We don't know the path. We didn't talk about that yet. And, you know, that's kind of potentially where I might be that maybe where I might be able to help people.

Um, but it is like, that's the first thing is that, yeah, I I'd rather I'll, I'll Find out what to do, but I I'd rather not struggle anymore. That's the first thing. Um, so that's an important decision. Then the second part of this really after that decision is made is to learn how to let go of the things that we can't control.

And there is a very specific technique for that. Um, it's what I call the practice of peaceful letting go. That helps people to eliminate stress on the spot, to stay centered, to maintain clarity, and, um, I keep saying the word peace, but I don't much sure if it's, if it's, if peace is what people want. I think it's more about the results of having peace, which is your centeredness, your clarity, clear thinking, um, even, or especially in those chaotic moments.

So there, there is an actual technique. When I said to get in tune with yourself, there is a way to do that. There's an actual technique for that. Um, and then just to kind of end the strategy part, um, or not end it, but complete my thought on it is, um, It's a, this is about what I show people to do is to have a way to nurture themselves or to get their nurturing in the moment as life is unfolding, as things are happening, rather than having to be, go somewhere else.

And, you know, if I could just get 10 minutes to myself and that's all good stuff, but it's hard to do. When do you get 10 minutes to go be alone or sneak, you know, extra five minutes in the morning to drink a cup of coffee alone or something like that. It's really about how do we stay in action, address whatever the family needs are, address our own needs for some relief, for some stress relief, for some peace.

Um, so you learn how to do that in the moment as you are actually still physically in action, taking care of your family and so on without the burden of stress and overwhelm. So I hope that makes sense. Yeah. Yeah. I have a question that maybe you have no answer to this, but I just thought of it. Um, a lot of.

Parents who have neurodivergent kids are also neurodivergent themselves. And I know for people that have ADHD, they are constantly seeking that dopamine hit. And chaotic environments are often what is the dopamine hit for them. So I know that I get super bored when things are calm. And just peaceful and whatever, but I like get this high when it's chaotic and I don't want to be chasing that high, but that's kind of, I feel like maybe I, I don't perpetuate the chaoticness, but like I thrive when things are chaotic.

Like last weekend I went to my, aunt's house and there was people running around and everything was happening and we had to cook breakfast for all the kids and my cousin was like, Oh my gosh, I hate this. I don't want to be here anymore. I just need to go home. And I was like, yeah, let's get it done. Like I'm going to cook all the waffles.

I'm going to do all this stuff, but I don't like that. I need the chaos to get the high. So, what would you say to someone who is maybe chasing the dopamine, like, what are other ways to get that, or do you just have to train your brain? I think it is important to, um, know what works for you and do that. Yes.

If the, um, if you thrive in chaos or chaotic environments. Okay. I mean, so I guess my question is, is that a problem? I mean, you, you did say that, um, you don't want to continually chase, chase that, that high. So I can understand that, but if this is something that you are, um, if it's okay with you and if it works for you, that that's great.

I don't feel like everybody needs to be calm and peaceful. Um, I'm, I'm talking to the, to, or I'd like to talk to the people who would like that because that is where They thrive, and that's what I think I can help with, but certainly if you, if you thrive with that, but also I go back to the answer of, um, what I said as part of the strategy, it's whatever this looks like for you, I would say to find a way to get your, your nurturing in the moment.

Right. Whatever that looks like for you. So if that is thriving with chaos, then, then that's great. I mean, you know, it, it takes all kinds. We need it all, you know? Yeah. Yeah. So it isn't a problem. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I think as you talk, there are productive ways to get the dopamine. So for me, I do a lot of different things in my business.

So I do music therapy. I do parent coaching. I do, uh, this podcast. And for me, that's what kind of creates a chaos in my life so that I get that dopamine. And I love that you say that maybe I'm not the right person because I'm not seeking that. I'm not the right person for you because I'm not seeking the peace and the calm.

That's not what helps me feel complete, I guess. Um, but yes, I love that you said there's nothing wrong. With having to have the chaos, you bring up a really good point. Like, Oh, thank you. Yeah, of course. So my, I guess, um, I don't know philosophy, but part of what I like to teach and try to live the best that I can, I'm definitely not perfect at this, but is to.

Allow things to be as they are, because they are that way, right? They are that way. So if one person thrives in one way, so let that be okay. If it's a problem, if you'd like that to be different, if you want to change that, you or anybody that's listening, then that's, that's fine, that's another thing. So there's a desire then to like make it, That's an opportunity to make a decision.

I don't like this. I want, I want it to be another way. Okay. That's fine. If you're, if you're good with it, that then, you know, what's the problem? Yeah. Yeah. So maybe if you're like my cousin was last weekend and your life is constantly filled with chaos and you would like to find a way to be more calm and you know, like do everything that you were saying, that is someone that should seek out working with you.

Okay. Absolutely. Sure. And so it's not, it's, it's also, I think like the calmness and the peace is I guess a result of the work or maybe it's not like the ending of it. Uh, it's kind of like a nice side benefit for those who want it, but this is really about staying focused, staying clear and calm in those chaotic moments when things are, but not, maybe not the good kind of chaos or the ones that somebody might thrive with.

There's a million things happening. You come, let's say, you know, you had a stressful day at work. Things are just. Off the hook crazy with stress. You come home and at that moment your child is, is really dysregulated. There's a, they're having their own moment where like they're very, they very much need you.

And you're just, you just don't have it. There's no bandwidth right there right now to do it. That is nobody's fault. It's not their fault. Your fault. It's just, it's just one of those moments where your life and the needs of your child are intersecting. Right. And so those are the kinds of moments where for some people, if you had a technique, if you had a way to just address that within yourself and within a few seconds so that you are more centered and present and calm, the piece is kind of a byproduct of that.

Then you might be able to see and take more effective actions in that moment. What does your kid need from you right now in a way that's not going to deplete you further or that like you, you do have the bandwidth for. So those are the kinds of things that to be a little more specific that, that I help with.

That is amazing because like we've said on this podcast before, if you're dysregulated, you can't help your kid be regulated. And that's just going to perpetuate all the awfulness that like you yell at your kid, they yell at you. They have aggressive behaviors and it just escalates where if you can take those few minutes and do the strategies that you're talking about, then.

You can regulate yourself and help your kid regulate themselves. Absolutely, absolutely, because of course our children pick up on our moods, feelings, thoughts, emotions, all the nonverbal stuff that I think is well communicated through our energy, through how we're showing up. And so, yeah, I think, um, I appreciate that you made a good point about the peace or the calmness and that's not It's not what everybody's after, and I certainly agree, um, it's just a way to make sure that your energy is affecting your family in a way that you're doing it with intention and awareness.

Like you, you know what I mean? As opposed to like whatever happens, cause this is your mood at the moment, which is all okay anyway. Right. Yeah. Best. Yeah. And I think it's important to remember that even if you thrive in chaotic environments, as long as you're self regulated, I think that's. What we're talking about, like just being self regulated and knowing and controlling your energy so that it's effective in what you're trying to accomplish.

And so I know that when I'm overwhelmed, and so maybe I am the right person for you because when I am overwhelmed and my kids are overwhelmed, I definitely need to use strategies for self regulation to help them. and then we can all calm down instead of all escalate. Sure. Yeah. If you, if you want that, of course.

Yeah. If something, if, if you're, if the way that you are works for you and it's good, that's cool. Um, my, you know, I'm the first one to say that the stuff that I teach and support parents with is not for everybody and I can't help everybody, although I'd love to, um, you know, we can. So. Um, it's really, I guess for, for people who would like that, you know, we, we hear a lot about, you know, let it go and you have to drop stress and we hear about this stuff.

And obviously that song was really popular a short time ago. The whole world was singing, let it go. Right. And I think that's cool. But so often what I heard was, yeah, easier said than done, or, or, well, how do you, how do you do that? You know, it's not a, it's not a new concept to like tell, tell somebody to let something go.

Sometimes I think it's even frustrating. It's like, I don't know how to do that. I want, so my point of saying that is that I do teach a way to help people let go. It's a very short, very direct process that takes a few seconds. You can do it. Like I say, in the moment that things are happening, where you need to be alert, attentive, paying attention, you know, physically with your eyes open, you can't close your eyes or go somewhere else.

It's for that. And it's also for times where maybe you do have a few minutes and, um, you just like to get a little more, go inward and you get a little more centered and Because there's not a million flyers you have to put out right now, so you can use it to be centered then also, if you want. Yeah. Yeah, for sure.

Um, I know that you do like a parent wellness assessment. Is that what it's called? Yeah. Yeah. Can you tell us a little bit about that? Absolutely. So that's a, that's a great way for me to just connect with somebody and just reach out in a very short amount of time. Um, so there's, there's three things that I like to do on that.

The, the first thing, first of all, it's only 15 minutes. So, you know, we've got to move along here, right? I'm a New Yorker. We don't have time for this. No, we have time. Um, but it's, I like to make the, make this very quickly. So the, the very quick, the three things that we'll do is I'm going to first evaluate the conscious or even the unconscious strategies that you're using right now, and to manage your stress.

Like, what are you, what are you doing? What are you aware of? What are you not aware of? Sometimes we do stuff we don't even know, right? So that's good to bring that to, to awareness because then we could do something with it. Um, and so we'll, we'll look at those strategies and then we'll discuss the best ways to optimize them so that you can feel more in tune with yourself.

That's, that's the whole point. If something is working for you, awesome. Great. That's, that's great. Um, But the point is that of that is that you have a strategy to become almost, almost untriggerable if that's a word in those moments of those, you know, the challenging moments and the high stress moments.

Um, so that's the first thing. The second thing is we're going to talk about how to make sure that you're showing up as I guess a powerful role model or maybe in a healthy emotional space so that your energy can impact your family more effectively or in a way that you're doing with more intention than awareness You know, than otherwise.

Um, and then the third thing is that I will walk you, I'll walk you through the exact process that you can implement to feel more centered and more in control when things feel out of control, so that, that all happens within 15 minutes, um, and that's, that's what those, uh, wellness. The parent wellness assessments are about.

It's just a way for me to connect. And I hope to give some value by showing people what else might be possible for them besides chaos, struggle, overwhelm, and stress. There's another way. It doesn't have to be that way. Even if it has been that way since your child was born, it doesn't have to stay that way if you make a decision on one piece instead.

Yeah. Yeah. It's definitely important to make the decision and stick with the decision. Because I know, yeah, a lot of people are like, oh, I want this, but if you like have to actually make the decision to do it, or else it's just, and make a plan for it. So, if you don't make the plan, then are you really. Do you really want it?

Sure. And that's where, you know, I think sometimes people could really benefit for, for, from some help with that. Some gentle, kind accountability where we're not going to, you know, like be tough with people. But people, I don't know if people really need. Mentorship rather than like, let's say a friend who's going to like help them keep their energy where it needs to be, help them stay on track with these things and kind of just show them a way that's give them some information.

Yeah. But kind of guide them through this process once they've decided that they would like to have it. And that's, that's kind of like how I think of myself more than, more than not, I guess, or not, not as a mentor. Awesome. Are there any other resources that you'd recommend to parents or anything else that you have that you'd recommend?

Yeah. So the other thing is, um, I have a masterclass it's free. It's less than 30 minutes. Um, and that's just kind of a, uh, a nice way to, um, go a little deeper into, you know, I talked about, um, you know, there's an actual technique. So I go into that a little bit further in that masterclass. Um, so it's, um, about how to become the calm in this storm.

And like I said, it, it has to do with, um, how exactly to get in tune with yourself and also how to ignite your child's potential and bring harmony into your home so that there is warmth and togetherness. And you know, there's other people sometimes involved, right? It's not sometimes not just a parent and child, but there are siblings, there are sometimes a partner or spouse or somebody else.

So, um, it's just about having that, bringing harmony into your home. Great. That I recommend. It's, it's. Okay. Yeah, that's it. Yeah. Where can people find your masterclass? Find you online? So, um, on my website, that's a great place to go if, um, that is RaisingSpecialNeedsKids. com and there's a, when you go to the homepage on that, there's, it's, there's an obvious button for watching the masterclass.

Um, there's also, um, a way to contact me through that. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for, oh, we forgot. What do you do for fun? Oh, well, you know, um, I play the drums. That stuff. Yeah. The, the, so the drums are, are, um, for me. So much fun. I actually teach in a local music store and that teaching, even though like it's a job, I love it.

It's so much fun to teach kids music and, um, and you know, to like be somebody's first music teachers. Like, that's really cool. Um, and I would say as music therapists, it's so important to make music for ourselves and like, not for anybody, not for, cause you're getting paid for it. Not for anything just like, cause it's enjoyable.

And like, that's why we got there in the first place. Right. Yeah, exactly. I can definitely attest to that. I know a lot of music therapists are like, I need to work on making music for myself because I'm always practicing for my clients or whatever. And so I've been playing, I've been getting back into playing the piano.

Instead of, um, I, I didn't play it for a long time unless I had to play it for something, you know, and that has been so awesome. And just, that's one way that I process my emotions and I just really recommend it. I recommend it to everyone. If you can make music, there's so many good benefits from that. Yes, absolutely.

A hundred percent. Of course. Yeah. Go for the joy or some other way to be creative or just have your have time for yourself. Go for the joy. Well, thank you. Uh, thank you for coming on the show. We truly appreciate your time. It's my pleasure. Thank you so much for having me. Awesome. Great to talk to you.

Okay. Lauren, what were the highlights? Um, I, I like, and I think we've talked about this. Before a long time ago, but like, we are like, we're putting out energy and vibes. Um, and so I think it's important to, to know that for yourself, um, the things that I got, and I don't know if this was necessarily intention, but this is how I made it make sense for me.

Um, but like kind of choosing your heart, you know, I think people have heard this, like, this is hard and this is hard to choose your heart. Um, Because, like, we can only control what we control and things that we can't control, like, again, kind of, like, choosing how you're going to respond to that, in a sense, um, but, like, he kept saying peace and stuff like that, and he wasn't quite sure if, like, peace was what he was looking for, um, and for me, it was more of, like, peace, but in the sense of you're allowing yourself grace, um, that you're not letting that It bogged you down.

You're not a verbal person or a bad parent or I don't want this to be my focus. I don't want to deal with this, like, in this moment, like. Whatever the situation or whatever it might be, but like looking in yourself and giving yourself grace so that you can get to that outcome of peace and calm and whatever it might be, if that makes sense.

Like that's kind of how I, I took it. And, um, I think like he said, like, let it go. And if what he said, he was exactly. What I talk about too is like, it's easier said than done. Like that's people's few responses. Easier said than done. Um, and so I definitely am interested to like, check out what those techniques might be to help you like, let stuff go.

But for me, I took it as like, choose your heart, dig deep. Like what's really important in this moment and allow yourself. Grace so that you can be there so that you can show up for your family, your job, whatever the situation is. Um, and that, yeah, I think that, like he said, like, we were like, Oh, I'm stressed out about this and this and this and this and this.

And for me, like, those aren't necessarily the things that are like stressing me out. It's how I'm like perceiving or like, I'm stressing out about how I myself am going to respond to those things. And am I going to do it right? And so we get back to. It's okay if you don't do it right. Give yourself grace and it will be okay.

So yeah, I know the vibes that I got. out of what he was saying. Yeah, and I think I kind of misunderstood him at first what his goal is. Um, and it's not to have a peaceful life. I think it's what you said. It's to have peace with your actions in your life. And are you in harmony with how you're living your life and how you're responding to things that come up?

Not necessarily like if you work with him, you're not going to have a like a peaceful life, a calm life. But you will have peace with yourself. Yeah, I, I, I think, yeah, essentially like how can I get in harmony with myself, right? Um, in tune with your own energy and things like that. And I think also, um, a part of that and we kind of talk about like fitting into the system.

And, and, and I kind of was thinking about it when you're going off about how like you thrive in chaos. Right. Like I see your life and I know about your life and I have a coworker like you guys thriving chaos. And for me, like, I'm watching back and I'm like stressed out for you, but like, that's where you guys succeed.

And that's like when you're at your best. But for me, I'm like, what are you doing? No. Um, and I think it goes to, that's your normal. And I think we need to be okay with choosing our normal and it doesn't have to be someone else's normal. It doesn't have to fit into the system. It's whatever your normal is and whatever brings you peace and all of that and a happy life and things like that.

Um, and like choosing that within yourself instead of trying to stress yourself out by fitting into expectations of others, essentially. Yeah. So. That's a good point to just don't worry about what the expectations of other people and just do what feels right to you, even though that is so much easier said than done.

I mean, I dyed my hair, I dyed my hair and I have blue in it now and I, someone commented on it. I was like, yeah, this person in my life, they're not going to be happy with my choice. And I'm like, why am I even worried about that? Like I wanted to do it. So. It's fine, you know, but I am, I'm, I'm worried about their reaction to it and that they're going to judge me.

And that's what, and that's what I think some of like the chronic stress and things like that is that we're too focused on like what other people are going to think or if I'm fitting into the system, if I'm doing it right. And that's not actually like the root. Yeah. Like, I mean, that's like, it's not that these things are stressful.

It's how I'm perceiving them in my response and potentially other people's reactions. Yeah, it's how I there's a lot that goes into how we react to things like just our primal needs, like, am I hungry? Am I thirsty? Am I too hot? Are my clothes itchy? Are my clothes too tight? Like, those can all make me feel overwhelmed.

But then you have the deep underlying things, like, are you worried about finances? Are you worried about what the doctor said your kid will never do? You know, stuff like that. And, um, I thought he brought up a good point. Like you have to get down to the root cause of it, because if you don't get to the root cause, you're never going to solve the bandaid on whatever.

Yeah. Yeah. Like you can get all the breathing exercises you want, but if you don't solve the main cause of your stress, you're going to perpetually have the stress, you know? So, yeah, I just thought he brought up some really good points about that. I think, yeah, I think it's just overall, like looking in ourselves and You know, just be in harmony with that and stop trying to fit into other peoples or other, other harmonies that aren't ours.

Yeah. Yeah. And I really like last week, like I said, my cousin does not thrive in chaos. She does not like chaotic environments. And so her mom was like, you can come over and have breakfast. And she said, I really liked what she said. She put up a boundary. She said, I am not making breakfast for that many people.

I will not. So, if you're inviting us over, who is making breakfast? Because I don't want to. I thought that was such a good thing to put up. Like, she knew she couldn't handle it. She knew it would stress her out. So she just, she verbalized that. She just said, I'm not doing this. Is somebody else going to make breakfast?

Because I can't. I can't handle that stress. Okay to have boundaries guys. Yeah, and I think it's vital to have boundaries and I am just learning this in my life, especially with people close to you. So I've been talking to a lot of parents, obviously parent coaching, and they, they say, you know, like, well, it's sad, but my kid can't go to his grandparents house without me anymore because I have this boundary and I'm not willing to cross it and they cross my boundaries.

And so that's fine. But they don't get to have my kid by themselves because they are doing things that trigger my kid and they're not doing it maliciously, but they just honestly don't think that it matters. And so that's why they're doing it. And so. I just think it's very hard to have boundaries, but they're vital if you want peace in your life.

Yeah. And then again, going back to, if that's what's going to bring you peace and like, their opinions don't matter, that they can be upset about it, but we all know, like, It's on them. You have the conversation. They proceeded to not care and did whatever they did that led to this result. Like that's not your problem.

That doesn't need to disturb your Yeah, yeah, I think we need someone to come on the show to talk about boundaries. I think that would be good, but stay tuned. I'm going to find someone. Okay. Thank you all for listening this week. We really appreciate you listening and supporting the show. If you would like to leave us a review, we would love that.

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